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Thursday, March 26, 2015

From Lazy to Lazyman

From Lazy to Lazyman
by Rachel Sobel

I’ve never been very athletic. I was always the last kid picked for teams in gym class. I played baseball and softball, but would have been solely a designated hitter if that option were available in Little League. Through my adult years, I squandered gym memberships and dabbled in group exercise classes, but never stuck with anything for very long. It wasn’t until I was over 40 that things began to change.

Nearly three years ago, I decided I didn’t want to be fat anymore. I went on a strict low-calorie, food-group-balanced diet. It was very difficult at first, but I allowed myself no leeway. For me, the harder part was incorporating exercise into my lifestyle. I started off slowly, exercising a few times a week at the YMCA. Every week, my only goal was to stick with it for another week. I was very self-conscious about my size and my limited abilities. In the beginning, water aerobics and walking were all I could comfortably do. I eventually added Zumba, taking pains not to glance at myself in the studio mirrors as I fumbled through the routines. I started using weight machines. It wasn’t fun, but I kept going.

Gradually, things began to change. As I learned the steps, I began to enjoy Zumba and looked forward to the classes. I began to see some muscle tone and ramped up my weightlifting. Toward the end of the first year, I began seeing a personal trainer at the Y, who taught me a lot and got me over being intimidated in the free weight room with all the boys. When spring came I got back on my bike. By the end of the first year, I had lost 75 pounds. I needed an entirely new wardrobe. Even my shoes and socks no longer fit.
In the second year, I started transitioning my diet to a more flexible way of eating that allowed me to have treats (and wine!) occasionally. Finding the right balance was tricky, and I’m not quite there yet, but I am getting closer to finding it.

By this point, I was enjoying working out and was at the gym 4-5 times a week. Exercise had become a habit. I started running in October. In the beginning, I could run only in quarter mile intervals, walking between them. It was more than a month before I could do a continuous mile. In June 2013, I ran my first 5K, The Race Against Hate. It was so hard, I visualized myself diving into the open doors of the ambulances waiting at the finish line, but I ran every step. I went on to run four more races that summer and fall. I also got more serious about cycling, commuting about 25 miles round-trip to work a few days a week and taking spin classes at the Y at 5:45 in the morning. I developed a regular routine in the free weight room.


Year two was also when I discovered yoga. My friend Becky told me about Elizabeth’s Curvy Yoga class at Hip Circle. I had always wanted to like yoga, but never did. My curvy body always got in the way! I tried Elizabeth’s class and was almost instantly hooked. She taught me how to work with the body I had. The small class was a great community, and there was lots of individual attention. I also loved the empowering vibe of the studio, and that there were women of all types and shapes there. By the end of year two, I had lost 15 more pounds.

I am now just past nine months into year three. I have now lost 99.5 pounds. (Yet my goal of 100 pounds lost still seems just out of reach.) I have an impressive musculature hidden behind a layer of flab that may never go away. But it’s not so much about my weight anymore -- it’s all about fitness. I’m happy with my body and everything that it can do. I don’t need (or want) to be skinny to look and feel great.

Today, I consider myself an athlete – a runner, cyclist, weightlifter and yogini (I’m still working toward swimmer). I do something active every day, often before dawn. I cycle twice a week, run 3-6 miles twice a week, swim once a week, lift weights twice a week, and take yoga twice a week. (Yes, that is sometimes multiple workouts in a day.) I take Kettlebell AMPD at Hip Circle when I need to shake things up a bit. In 2014, I ran two 5Ks and did three group bike rides ranging from 40-50 miles.

This winter, I completed the Lazyman Triathlon at the Y — twice! In six weeks I swam 5 miles, rode 224 miles and ran 52.4 miles. I have several races (maybe even a 10K) in mind for the summer, and am already registered for two bike rides. I am hoping to do a sprint triathlon this summer, if I become a more confident open water swimmer and can invest in a speedy road bike in time. In the fall, I plan to ride my first century.


I know that the odds of keeping the weight off long-term are against me. I am just one injury or illness away from getting off track, and I know how hard it is to get started again. And I will admit that I can be a little obsessive about my diet and exercise – they take up more mental space than I would like them to and that’s something I need to work on. But after nearly three years, I truly hope my active lifestyle is here to stay.


Friday, March 13, 2015

Why I Dance

This month has had a theme for me...time and time again I find myself addressing the question of Why I Dance, so it seems right to do so here, too.

When I first found bellydance I was looking for a tool - something I could add to my doula bag of tricks.  I wasn't looking for something to change my life or fix anything or a vehicle for change in the world, but that's what I found.

Changed My Life

8 Elements = Family
Going from one class a week, to two classes a week, to teaching 6-week workshops, to developing a weekly class,  to choreographing with a partner, to directing a student troupe, to developing additional classes, to opening the studio, to pursuing 8 Elements certification, to choreographing on my own, to developing the 100Days project - Bellydance has become a central part of my everyday life.  With that transition has come a greater understanding of myself as a physical being, and the realization that I am (and forever will be) an artist.  

Fixed Things

Zahara Fusion at Streets Alive
image by Maike's Marvels
Through bellydance I have found my way to accepting and seeing beauty in the physical form regardless of what form that takes.  Seeing women of all shapes and sizes dancing is so powerful.  I am proud to say that I am the closest I have ever been to accepting my own body without apology.  Bellydance has also been a big part in my recovery process, both physically and psychologically, over the past decade.  I would not be who I am today without it.


Changing the World

image by Karen Kring
When I taught a group of brand new dancers this week I shared part of why I dance bare-bellied.  I told them that we, as a society, are so unused to seeing things that are real.  When I get on stage showing my belly - flesh, fat, stretch marks, and all - I am embodying the motto of my student troupe: Real Women, Dancing for Joy.  Through being myself and teaching women and girls of all ages and backgrounds I'm participating in a mini-revolution.  And that just might change the world.





I hope you all find your bellydance, whatever it may be, and discover the thing that will change your life, fix what ails you, and helps you change the world.  

Thursday, March 5, 2015

Achievaloutions - February 2015

I added a jar to each classroom on our first day of classes in January and declared them our Achievaloutions Jars.  
Students and visitors are encouraged to add notecards with their Achievaloutions (things they feel good about having done) throughout each month.  

This series will share all of the Acheivaloutions in hopes of inspiring you to do good things AND notice them when you do!




    February 2015:
    1. "Figure 8 chest over hip shimmy!  It worked!" - Anonymous 
    2. "I booked another singing gig" - Roberta
    3. "Roberta pointed out..."Making yourself laugh" is an achievaloution so I do that all the time." - Maike
    4. "We made it to Bellydance!" - Deborah & Anya
    5. "Spoke up on controversial topic." - Anonymous
    6. "Framed pieces for my March ARC Gallery Textual Encounters Show." - Maike
    7. "Delivered a commission piece to a Hip Circle Student." - Anonymous
    8. "I started a business at school selling duct tape flower pens." - Ronni
    9. "Went skiing for first time in 10 years!" - Anonymous
    10. "I finished a book in half of a day." - Sammi
    11. "I successfully edited a computer coding script at work for a program I was never trained in (MATLAB)"! - Anonymous
    12. "My nostril piercing finally healed!" - Catherine
    13. "I've consistently Moxie Boxed since May - which means I didn't quit Hip Circle after 3 months like other gyms." - Anonymous
    14. "I gained greater control of my core." - Lindsey
    15. "I flossed everyday this week and gave up sugar for lent!" - Logan
    16. "Cardiobelly fogged up the windows." - Malik
    17. "I have written 2 monologues this month so far." - Roberta
    18. "Made it back to the studio for 4 classes after a month and a half away. And did a headstand in yoga!" - Rosemary
    19. "Hanging in there." - Anonymous
    20. "I survived my first kettlebell!" - Donna
    21. "I didn't lose my cool the 3rd time I called Comcast. I did the 10th." - Anonymous
    22. "I wrote a phenomenal monologue and performed it on Sunday." - Roberta
    23. "I cleared my February email inbox!" - Malik
    24. "I came to CardioBelly and the blizzard didn't stop me!" - Charlotte
    25. "Malik had a Bra-velation!" - Anonymous
    26. "Finished another Etsy shoot for my #EstyMatchCampaign." - Maike
    27. "I managed a tech rehearsal of 40 lovely women who wouldn't stop talking and the concerts were great!" - Anonymous
    28. "I inspired someone to fitness - my dad at 88." - Roberta
    29. "I had a transformational gig on Sat." - Anonymous
    30. "Convinced self that it was important to get out of my head and come to exercise class! (huge)" - Anonymous
    31. "Submitted revised artist statement for a group show." - Maike
    32. "Challenged myself physically by going x-country smiling and snowshoeing." - Anonymous
    33. "I worked hard and made it into a Mudlark show!" - Anonymous
    34. "Having lovely business - pow-wows with kindred spirits this week." - Maike
    35. "Worked on 2 encaustic pieces for spring exhibits." - Maike

    Thursday, February 26, 2015

    Let it Go

    In January, 2015, I put the following prompt up for potential guest bloggers:
    Write about why you come to the studio, what happens in your class(s), what you ate for breakfast - whatever you want that you can tie in to the studio doings.
    The In Their Words posts share the contributions of the women who answered that call, in their words, without edits.  Enjoy!

    Let It Go by Rebecca Sturgeon

    I danced today.  There was a time not too long ago when I wondered if that would ever happen again.  But a little over a year ago, I started taking bellydance classes at Hip Circle Studio, and discovered a love for this art form that has enriched my creative life.  

    But the most profound thing is the love I discovered for something truly precious — my physical self.  I danced today and almost without thinking, my body made shapes and moving sculptures in the air that were lovely to look at.  I know — I have the video to prove it.  I danced today and when I watched the video to learn from it, I thought about the dance, not about how my belly looked or whether or not I had a muffin top in this outfit.  I danced today and I loved my bones and muscles for all things I have trained them to do.  I loved the length and space I could take up with my arms, and the smile I could see on my face.  I loved the heart that beat faster with every spin and jump.  

    A while back, I spent time with Malik learning how to engage my glute muscles for hip shimmies.  We practiced for almost an hour — squeeze, release, squeeze release.  At one point Malik said something like, “The release is just as important as the squeeze.  You need to let go all the way.”  Later, I realized how much that little idea meant to everything.  

    In this practice of dance and this learning, I could finally let go all the way.  I could let go of all the negative body image and self talk that kept me small and hiding.  And when I let go all the way, new things rushed in to lift me up.  I danced today and I let go all the way of the doubt that I was not good enough or trained enough or thin enough or pretty enough.  What rushed in was confidence, joy and some badass looking crossover turns.  

    I danced today, I am going to dance tomorrow, and every day to follow for a very long time.  Every day I am looking forward to letting go, all the way, to see what rushes in.

    Rebecca Sturgeon writes more about being a grown up woman in a strange new world at her blog,goingmapless.blogspot.com.  

    Thursday, February 5, 2015

    Achievaloutions - January 2015


    I added a jar to each classroom on our first day of classes in January and declared them our Achievaloutions Jars.  
    Students and visitors are encouraged to add notecards with their Achievaloutions (things they feel good about having done) throughout each month.  


    This series will share all of the Acheivaloutions in hopes of inspiring you to do good things AND notice them when you do!


    January 2015:
    1. "I am doing chores at home." - Augusta
    2. "I had my first (and not last) kale smoothie today before I came to class." - Sara
    3. "First class post-foot-surgery. - DONE!" - Debi
    4. "I learned to bellydance." - Lilia
    5. "I got strait As." - Anonymous
    6. "Did a back-bendy yoga class without getting queasy." - Anonymous
    7. "Took care of my beta fish." - Anonymous
    8. "I've been healthy." - Alice
    9. "12 days without sugar." - Anonymous
    10. "I made time to work out 4 days in a row." - Donna S.
    11. "Did a gajillion hamstring curls." - Anonymous
    12. "I made a goal pyramid." - Donna S. 
    13. "Planned quarterly business goals for 2015." - Margaret O. 
    14. "I studied for a test." - Anonymous
    15. "I did a headstand unassisted tonight.  Twice!" -Rachel
    16. "I finished a big project at work." - Anonymous
    17. "I got to dance with my mom for the first time in a while.  It was really great and fun.  I missed those kinds of moments." - Mia A.
    18. "I got a 96% on a test." - Anonymous
    19. "Becoming very comfortable in my improv, seeing it as having organized parts - even when I don't know the music." - Nancy C.
    20. "Came to 8:15 am Moxie Boxing on Sunday!" - Anonymous
    21. "Completing my 1 year anniversary with FHCC VA job I so love!" - Deb
    22. "I love bellydancing!!!!!!!" - Posie
    23. "Spoke up about/to someone being inconsiderate." -Rebecca
    24. "Finished my class plan & syllabus." - Anonymous
    25. "I sang row row row your boat in a opera voice." - Anonymous
    26. "Last week I made 21 calls for singing gigs!" - Roberta M.
    27. "Purged and sorted all my hard copy files at home - got rid of tons of paper." - Catherine M.
    28. "I completed learning the first Aliyah for my Bat Mitzvah." - Ronni L.
    29. "I gave my fries to a homeless man instead of eating them!" - Anonymous
    30. "Took beach photos every day this week!" - Margaret O.
    31. "Did speed bag with 3s(!!!)" - Anonymous
    32. "Woke up & came to 8:15 am Moxie Boxing after a late night out." - Mara J.
    33. "I got my hair pink." - Anonymous
    34. "I told my story in front of half the school." - Sammi
    35. "I started the year off right with dancing with my daughter." - Sara Jane A. 
    36. "Nora and I choreographed an entire song! Yay!" - Ronni L.
    37. "Got the new green card in the mail before February expiration.  :)" - Maike
    38. "Untangled a blue hip scarf!  :-)" - Anonymous
    39. "I tried bellydancing.  :-)" - Meg
    40. "I resolved a 5 month internet issue, and I finally have working internet at home.  It was a huge battle and I feel like I achieved something great!" - Anonymous
    41. "Launched my study/on-line survey." - Anonymous
    42. "Did hundreds with toe touches in Pilates today - Woot!" - Anonymous
    43. "Survived the first day of midterms." - Anonymous
    44. "I booked myself a gig! (with no assistant & didn't get too mixed up)" - Roberta M.
    45. "Exercise classes two days in a row." - Mara J.
    46. "I finished 3 books in two weeks." - Sammi L.
    47. "I checked out library books." - Anonymous
    48. "Getting sales tax filed. :-)" - Maike
    49. "I quit eating sugar!" - Margaret O.
    50. "Making regular time to exercise even when it seems I am too busy." - Anonymous
    51. "I conquered my fear of sleeping...in my dad's bed." - Anonymous
    52. "Awesome insightful brainstorming with the WBEW group today." - Maike
    53. "I baked 24 donuts and didn't eat one before class." - Anonymous
    54. "Potty trained my daughter in a day." - Kristin M.
    55. "My achievement I accept who I am!" - Anonymous
    56. "I came here despite being so tired." - Anonymous
    57. "Committed to fitness for 2015 in the coldest week of the year thus far." - Anonymous
    58. "I've exercised every other day for the past 10 days!" - Jacqueline
    59. "Getting my financial rear in gear (retirement planning)" - MVW
    60. "I loved coming to class with my daughter - seeing her smile & enjoy movement is an achievement." - Anonymous
    61. "I sang Happy Birthday in an opera voice." - Anonymous
    62. "Performed and did an art show on the same night." - Roberta M.
    63. "I took my first belllydance class." - Augusta
    64. "I took my first bellydance class. (and loved it!)" - Sara
    65. "I did a cartwheel in gymnastics class." - Miriam S.
    66. "I rock at belly dancing." - Alice G.
    67. "Started FUSEDChicago presidency. :)" - Maike
    68. "There classes this week!  Woot!" - Anonymous
    69. "I learned two songs in a day." - Anonymous
    70. "Feeling grateful I was relaxed in my morning school process." - SJ
    71. "I got nominated to go to Washington DC and learn to be a better leader for 6 days by myself." - Ronni
    72. "Got a B on Geometry Midterms!" - Anonymous
    73. "Went to the MS neurologist who congratulated me 2X!  For being in good control from working out." - Roberta M.
    74. "I cleaned my room today." - Miriam
    75. "I took advice from my mother to help me with a bully." - Anonymous
    76. "Sold a painting Friday." - Roberta M.
    77. "I learned some bellydancing!" - Lucia
    78. "Finished 3 work projects before long weekend." -Mara J.
    79. "I did yoga at home with the kids on our cold weather day." - Hannah
    80. "Boosted productivity using the 52/17 technique." - Malik
    Look at all the AWESOME we've done this month!  Way to go, Studio Community!  I'm looking forward to February!

    Thursday, January 29, 2015

    Mama-Oxygen

    In January, 2015, I put the following prompt up for potential guest bloggers:
    Write about why you come to the studio, what happens in your class(s), what you ate for breakfast - whatever you want that you can tie in to the studio doings.
    The In Their Words posts share the contributions of the women who answered that call, in their words, without edits.  Enjoy!

    Wednesday, January 7, 2015

    You Are Awesome, even in January

    You are awesome.

    Just the way you are.

    You are awesome.

    Here's the thing...until you lock into that idea (you are awesome) all the other stuff doesn't matter one stinking bit.  

    Some things to consider instead...


    ...celebrate your successes, all of them, out loud.  Sharing the positive thoughts will help you feel good about the you YOU ARE RIGHT NOW.  We're doing this all year with our Achievealoutions Jars.

    ....compliment yourself for something at least once a day.  We do this after our brief improvisation exercise in all of our bellydance classes at the studio.  It feels good in the moment and sinks in over time.

    ...surround yourself with others who are (or are willing to be) happy with themselves and non-judgmental of the people around them.  Positivity is contagious - work that to your advantage!

    Bottom line: let yourself be happy with yourself!  Yep - I'm giving you permission (not that you need my permission, but, you know, it's here for you all the same) to like you, right now, even though it's January and that apparently means it's time for us all to go on a self-loathing spree.  

    I want you to be happy.  I want you to be healthy.  I want you to be well.  But most of all...

    I want you to know that you're already awesome.